Setting a Roadmap to What You Want...Part One (A response to Johnnie Moore's Blog)

[Robin McCulloch]

How do you get where you want to go? Well first of all you have to figure out where you want to go. Not always as easy as it may seem on first blush. But let’s say for starters that it’s okay to go for the big stuff right off the bat. I want to be rich. I want to be happy. I want a great relationship. I want to have a fulfilling job. And some of this stuff is interconnected clearly.

But if that’s what you want, then that’s what you want. And yes most people are going to look at you and say, “Ya, well, who doesn’t want that stuff?” Another question that seems to beg a simple answer but if it really is that simple then why are there so many people who aren’t happy? Why are there so many people who are afraid to say they want those things?

Here’s where you have to start. It’s okay to want those things or any of dozens of other big ticket things that are worth wanting. And you are the only person who can decide if they are worth wanting. But most of us look at those things, the big ticket stuff, and think, “but I’m way over here and I’m not even sure I can see them let alone figure out how to get to them.”

And if you think of it like that it can be overwhelming. So what you have to do is imagine the thing you want and start to work your way back getting more and more specific.

I want to be happy. Okay so what would make you happy? Well I would like to have a job that not only paid me pretty well but that I enjoyed doing. And what would you enjoy doing? I’d like to something that involves sports, maybe broadcasting. What sport would you like to be most involved with? I like hockey and football. Who broadcasts the football that you watch now? Well I watch…

You just get more and more specific until you are finally at the thing you can do today. The one thing that you have the capability to do right now and you look at the trail of answers you left on your journey back from your big ticket want to today and that’s your road map, a step by step what-I-want-and-how-to-get-it road map.

[Robin McCulloch]

For me one of the problems is thinking, well if I commit to wanting that then it means I don't want this. So I try now to see it as a more fluid process. I tell my students that when you enter a scene you need to be fully commited to what you want so that you are active immediately. But the second you enter the scene things start to change so you need to be prepared to shift your want and actions in relation to the offers you recieve in the scene. Just because I say I want this today doesn't mean that's what I'm going to want tomorrow. So do I really need to put so much pressure on myself to get it "right"? You could stand off stage a very long time before you are convinced you have it "right" and never get into the onstage action.

[Leif Hansen]

Good thoughts Robin. The tricky part for me is really deciding what some of those specifics are. I have the ability to dream big, and believe that anything can happen, but yes *what* do I REALLY want? Tricky tricky Q.